Tuesday, November 18, 2008
So yesterday I shared that I have a son with Aspberger's Syndrome. I hope that all of you did not think that I sounded too flippant about it. We have had four years to accept and deal with this challenge in his life.
For those of you who do not know, Aspbergers is on the mild side of autism. They sometimes call it the geek syndrome because of the lack of social graces these children have. Cooper used to have a hard time looking you in the eye, cannot discern facial cues in conversations, things like that. His world is black and white and the world we live in is full of shades of gray. I used to have so many worries about my little guy.
When Cooper was first diagnosed, I admit, I was ticked off at God. Seriously, four kids, why can't they all be relatively normal? Then I asked myself, "What is normal?" Then I googled and researched anything and everything about it. Knowledge is power after all. Then I prayed.
I think praying about it, giving my little guy over to God is truly what made a difference. In reading my bible I came across Psalm 139:14 "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful." Wow, that is my Cooper. He may be different, but he is wonderfully so. Cooper is a work of God and God's works are wonderful.
Okay, we face challenges with him, but he has so many gifts. He has an incredible sense of humor. He has "Cooperisms" that come out of his mouth that make perfect sense and tickle my sense of the ridiculous. He is incredibly smart and will probably cure some horrible disease or invent some microchip we all cannot live without. He looks at things differently, truly uniquely and that helps all of us look at the world through Cooper's eyes. What a great view.
Not everything we face in our lives as mothers is filled with wonder, most of it is really hard. But we need to try to find the wonder.
What is special and unique about each of your children? What is the silliest thing they have ever done? Laugh my friends, laugh.
God bless you and yours.